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When too many things keep coming at you, what do you do? How do you cope? Where do you turn?

All too often as a parent in the NICU, there is a ton of stuff coming at you. Information from and about:

Nurses
Surgeons
Neonatologists
Blood needs to be taken
Vitals are needed constantly
Diapering with cords
Holding in and out of the incubator
Pumping
Feedings
Breathing
... and the list continues, but this isn't including the things that you as the parent needs!

You will deal with these things slightly differently than I did and the next parent over will deal with them in their own way too. The concern comes up when you get overloaded and can't see or hear straight anymore.

It's become too much.

When information, issues, unexpected turns, and your own health issues come at you all at once, what are you supposed to do?

Story: (may be triggering)
When Skye's brain surgery was a few days away I started getting really sick. I couldn't eat and was pumping and depleting myself every day. This turned bad...

What are the things you forget to do this time of year for yourself?

My video today is about bringing back those tools and replenishing moments in order to ground yourself and be more who you want to be in these days.

Happy Holidays my friend.
Have a listen and be good to yourself.

Can you revisit a magical memory in order to build yourself up again in the moment?

When a person is in the thick of their own lives and the lives of their baby's and people around them, they can't always remember how they got there and the work that has been done.

The point of holding memories is to learn and grow and become a better version of yourself all the time in order to make the world a better place with each and every moment.

So can tapping into the old memories that hold Love, joy, excitement and pleasure bring those emotions to us in the moments when we're not joyful, feeling Loved or feeling a bit stuck?

YES!

The short answer is Yes!

I have to believe that we hold these things within us, our minds and our bodies, so that we can build out from the stuff that others have put on us as we grow.

Now, some of this stuff from others is not very nice. Most of it did not have malicious intent. Those actions were coming from what those adults and guardians thought was the...

Honouring yourself and what your needs are is not always an easy task. You're a parent, a caregiver, a child, a partner, a worker, a grandchild and much more I'm sure. Those who need you the most are your children because they are the ones learning from you and teaching you every day.

The close runner-up to being the first to need you, is You.

I'm a culprit of forgetting this and sometimes life takes over and makes me stop.

That's what happened over the last few weeks, I got really sick and my body made me stop physically, mentally, emotionally and even spiritually for a while.

At first the break was all about not getting worse and actually sleeping a lot.
Then is was about getting better in case my Skye or Scott got sick - which I quickly learned, I can't force myself to get better, it's just about doing what you can while you feel like crap. :)

The next stage for me was realizing I had time to rest and to think. My spirit finally came back through to me consciously and asked me...

I am officially 44 years old! :D

As of last night at 9:56pm Pacific Time, my physical body was brought into the air of this incredible world and I began my journey outside the womb.

Birthdays are days that make me see things differently and think of things in a very unusual way, since my Skye was born. 

I wonder about the journey from the cells, to growing in the womb and then coming out into the open air.
I ponder things like the what-ifs and how-comes of our existence.
And I deeply think about the parents.

Having given birth to another soul, I see how much that birth-day is for the mother and parents involved. It's almost more so a celebration of the survival and purely incredible feat of everyone that participated in that day.

In some families, the mother is a big part of the celebration and awareness for their children's birthdays. Both bodies worked so very hard, and many for a long time, to be together this way.

There are also the ones who don't stay in this world during...

Do you often want to take time away just for yourself and either can't or don't?

Sometimes, and especially if you're a single parent, you just have no options to escape and take time for yourself. It's very difficult to find someone you trust with the kiddo and you have feelings of guilt because you often hear things like, "He'll grow up soon and you'll have all the time you want." or "I never had time away, that was never an option for me."

Whether you have these voices coming from someone else or from inside your head, being a parent is a lot of work and the gremlin voices giving messages of guilt, shame and thoughts of 'you must power through', are NOT helpful!

The voice is not something that I feel I can trust because if that voice is making me feel pressured or guilty or tied down, then what is it serving? Certainly doesn't feel like it's serving me!

A few weekends ago, I was gifted the realization that taking care of ourselves, as leaders of a family, business...

How many times have you decided not to show a negative emotion?

Was it with family? friends? a doctor or surgeon? Maybe it was with a new specialist you finally got into for your little one.

Wherever it was, for some reason you chose not to express what you were truly feeling in the moment and now you think about it more and wonder if you should have said something.

For me, this happened a lot when Skye was in the NICU and really little. I just wanted the best for him and sometimes what was being said or offered didn't make me feel good. 

Don't get me wrong. I would never allow anything to take place that my husband and I didn't agree upon, but the emotions underneath the decisions sometimes were screaming in my heart and head and I didn't know where to release them.

With all of the care and attention on self-care out there now, there are many avenues to releasing emotions and lots of education about holding things in turning into, or manifesting into something like a physical...

How do you know when to stop and take some time from the busyness? 

Your body might tell you. Are you listening?

Often my body tells me when it needs Love and attention by getting sore or injured or showing exhaustion more than usual. I consider this my body talking to me. 

Recently we were having fun at the roller-skating rink. Afterwards I got to the truck and realized I'd pulled something. Now I've been on crutches for a few days (but getting better!). 

We can take our bodies and our loved ones for granted very easily. All of us take something or someone for granted. They are often giving signals that they need attention, but we might not stop to pay attention until it's late in the process.

Have a listen to my video and share your thoughts on what you might be taking for granted right now.
Love always,
Leanne Rose 

How often do you get frustrated because someone is being a twit or not doing exactly what you wanted them to do?

Sometimes these annoyances are totally legitimate and other times a glimmer of recognizing your part comes into view. 

When you find yourself in a longer lasting state of pent up frustration, annoyance, disbelief and all of the emotions that come with those states, it is seemingly easy to point fingers and say that someone else is solely causing the problem. And yet, you too are in the situation somehow, somewhere. So what?

Redirecting the focus onto your part of things is a big job. Other than gurus and teachers who have been working on themselves for many moons, most of us do not like dissecting how we too are a player in the happenings of our life.

Doing your own work is powerful and painful.

Not everyone is equipped to do the hard work, look within and figure out how to dance with the constant flow of annoying or sad situations that they are faced with.

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Beyond your scope of understanding lies a deeply supportive tool that you forget is on your side. Time is here for you, not against you and it can be just what your soul has ordered.

The weight of life can be overwhelming sometimes. It can be consuming and you just don't want to do anything, and yet, being a parent or caregiver, there's always someone who needs you. 

As of late there have been more losses in my life and it's hard to figure out how I'm supposed to be. Happy? Sad? Thoughtful? Helpful? Each moment brings a new way of feeling and each day brings a lot of things that need doing. The world keeps turning even if you'd like it to stop just for a second. 

Keeping up and 'getting things done' is a pressure that you can feel at any point. When there's a lot of stuff going on and you don't think you can put one more thing into your life, often some other event or person or something comes along or happens and you just can't avoid adapting to it.

Interestingly enough,...