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Too often we try to do everything on our own and then we get overwhelmed, cranky, snippy and not the person we want to be.

This is so common, not just with us NICU parents, but with everyone! 

For some reason, our society has forgotten about the village mentality. We have allowed ourselves to try to do everything on our own and, for goodness sake, we even make our newborn babies become instantly independent by having them sleep in a crib or bassinet right out of the womb!! What is that all about?

This fierce independence needs to be redesigned. It is somewhat of a downfall for everyone because we honestly are not getting the support and love that we rightfully deserve and can thrive with. Most of us decline help at moments when we really do actually need that help.

This stops here!

Let's rework support for ourselves right now and learn how to accept that village back into our lives so we can settle in to more of who we are inside our souls and in turn who we need to be for...

Having a baby can be the most adventuresome part of any person’s life. Having a baby in the NICU can be the most traumatic.

I believe that I was supposed to be a trauma therapist before I had my son. I don’t think I could have recovered as quickly or known what was happening to me if I didn’t have that background knowledge. That time in the delivery room and the two months in the NICU was what has now sculpted my life.

Photo by Daria Shevtsova

Now don’t assume that because I was a trauma therapist going through a NICU experience things went smoothly for me, on the contrary, things were totally out of control! I can look back and just see it as an experience because I’ve done A LOT of healing and soul searching and looking at my son. There are definite times when I purposely have to access my trauma counsellor brain to ask some tough questions of myself and how I want to move forward.

So that’s where this blog post sort of stems from, from the...