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When too many things keep coming at you, what do you do? How do you cope? Where do you turn?

All too often as a parent in the NICU, there is a ton of stuff coming at you. Information from and about:

Nurses
Surgeons
Neonatologists
Blood needs to be taken
Vitals are needed constantly
Diapering with cords
Holding in and out of the incubator
Pumping
Feedings
Breathing
... and the list continues, but this isn't including the things that you as the parent needs!

You will deal with these things slightly differently than I did and the next parent over will deal with them in their own way too. The concern comes up when you get overloaded and can't see or hear straight anymore.

It's become too much.

When information, issues, unexpected turns, and your own health issues come at you all at once, what are you supposed to do?

Story: (may be triggering)
When Skye's brain surgery was a few days away I started getting really sick. I couldn't eat and was pumping and depleting myself every day. This turned bad...

Crashing into an unexpected life event when you least expect it doesn’t feel very good. It might have come out of nowhere or if there was some preparation you didn’t know all that was going to occur. You can feel alone, unsure and uncertain as to where you’re supposed to go or what you’re supposed to do.

That feeling can get even deeper and there begins to be a sense of a loss of control. You feel like every morning or every day is a new adventure in s*#t and you can not see your way out any time soon. What would it be like to let yourself sit in the feeling? This is not a place where many of us feel comfortable, especially if you’ve had a history of depression or anxiety. It can be a scary place to venture and bring you more worries than you had before because phrases like “I’m supposed to be okay by now.” “Why am I still feeling like this?” are going through your mind.

When so much has happened to you and you really...

It’s springtime where I am which means we get the spring cleaning fever. Looking around us and at our own bodies and connecting to what we can now let go of because it’s not going to serve us going into the summer months.

I definitely got stuck in some victim thinking and a headspace that I can finally say I’m seeing more of the Light in. It has not been an easy ride and yet I’m doing so much work and giving myself space and time to figure out how these experiences will serve me and the people I hold space for in the future.

Listen to my video where I talk about vulnerability and how those of us who are heads of households, or bosses, or entrepreneurs have a hard time letting ourselves be vulnerable so we can grow too.

Where are you stuck? And what would you like to let go of?

Love always,
Leanne Rose