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Exhaustion.
Fatigue.
Overwhelm.

These words probably bring weight to your body and images to your mind of a time, perhaps presently, when you have been overloaded with what's happening around you. 

Recently I have felt these things and my body decided to tell me to take a break the only way it knew how, by giving me a cold. 

I believe that when you are overwhelmed and frustrated with the events, people or things around you, you have a new opportunity. An moment in time when you can choose something different than trudging along your current path. 

Whether it's a new point of view, a new feeling you allow, a new direction you take with your heart or your car, or whatever... there is a opportunity to choose something different.

How do you get to the point of seeing your options? 
Well, you practice.

It takes time and some effort in order to get into the habit of seeing all of the options in front of you when you're exhausted and just done. It is never impossible, it's...

How are you doing?

Do you believe that I really and truly want to know? I do want to know, yet others use it as a simple greeting.

When I hear that question being asked, or have it asked of me, I sometimes ponder if it's a genuine wonderment from the person asking. 

I'm sure it could be, but sometimes the person who asked it doesn't actually want to know the real answer. The answer could have elements in it that the receiver might not know how to handle, not want to hear or be too rushed to spend the proper time on with you. (This happened often when we were in the NICU with Skye. Too tough for some people to fathom - heartfelt, but uncomfortable.)

And then there are those dangerous answers too like: "Fine." "Alright." "Okay." If someone answers with these I often offer a space to say more because the one word answers can contain a lot behind them.

Those answers roll off the tongue and don't seem to have any substance, but you and I both know we have a ton of...

Honouring yourself and what your needs are is not always an easy task. You're a parent, a caregiver, a child, a partner, a worker, a grandchild and much more I'm sure. Those who need you the most are your children because they are the ones learning from you and teaching you every day.

The close runner-up to being the first to need you, is You.

I'm a culprit of forgetting this and sometimes life takes over and makes me stop.

That's what happened over the last few weeks, I got really sick and my body made me stop physically, mentally, emotionally and even spiritually for a while.

At first the break was all about not getting worse and actually sleeping a lot.
Then is was about getting better in case my Skye or Scott got sick - which I quickly learned, I can't force myself to get better, it's just about doing what you can while you feel like crap. :)

The next stage for me was realizing I had time to rest and to think. My spirit finally came back through to me consciously and asked me...

What are the messages you are giving yourself during the piling on of to-do lists?

Holiday times can create a landslide of extras that overwhelm and stress us out.

Taking care of yourself from the inside-out makes the way you handle stress feel different. You can look at any given situation and figure out how you'd like to respond and if you'd like to respond.

Remembering to fill your bucket as you're thinking about filling others' is essential.

Beyond your scope of understanding lies a deeply supportive tool that you forget is on your side. Time is here for you, not against you and it can be just what your soul has ordered.

The weight of life can be overwhelming sometimes. It can be consuming and you just don't want to do anything, and yet, being a parent or caregiver, there's always someone who needs you. 

As of late there have been more losses in my life and it's hard to figure out how I'm supposed to be. Happy? Sad? Thoughtful? Helpful? Each moment brings a new way of feeling and each day brings a lot of things that need doing. The world keeps turning even if you'd like it to stop just for a second. 

Keeping up and 'getting things done' is a pressure that you can feel at any point. When there's a lot of stuff going on and you don't think you can put one more thing into your life, often some other event or person or something comes along or happens and you just can't avoid adapting to it.

Interestingly enough,...

Yes and No, is the short answer.

The long answer involves the idea of an actual wheel getting stuck in the mud versus a rolling wheel that functions for what you need in any given moment.

I get asked this questions about whether the wheel really works or not and here in this video are my morsels of knowledge that have come through while helping so many others.

I hope it helps you!

Message me and let me know your thoughts!
Love you, 
Leanne Rose :)