Doing Your Own Work

How often do you get frustrated because someone is being a twit or not doing exactly what you wanted them to do?

Sometimes these annoyances are totally legitimate and other times a glimmer of recognizing your part comes into view. 

When you find yourself in a longer lasting state of pent up frustration, annoyance, disbelief and all of the emotions that come with those states, it is seemingly easy to point fingers and say that someone else is solely causing the problem. And yet, you too are in the situation somehow, somewhere. So what?

Redirecting the focus onto your part of things is a big job. Other than gurus and teachers who have been working on themselves for many moons, most of us do not like dissecting how we too are a player in the happenings of our life.

Doing your own work is powerful and painful.

Not everyone is equipped to do the hard work, look within and figure out how to dance with the constant flow of annoying or sad situations that they are faced with.

Being in the NICU has an edge to it where you don't feel like you are your baby's caregiver even though you know they need you for touch and kangaroo cuddles and reassuring lullabies. 

When you have to go home at night to get a better sleep, it's painful and frustrating to release to others the ultimate care of your little one. 

It's excruciating.

Remembering those moments still makes my heart sad and can flood me with the emotions still stuck there. How do you manage this and how is this tied to doing your own work?

The more you know yourself, the better you're going to be able to voice what you need, ask the questions that have arisen with curiosity instead of anger, and allow any and all emotions that need to be cared for, to come out without doing harm to others.

This empowers you to look at the situation differently, perhaps through grateful eyes and with a grateful heart because your wee babe has people who care around them all the time.

Whether you're still in the NICU, or long graduated, noticing what your body is feeling is the first step. "I feel tense, sick to my stomach, flushed, etc." Then knowing that you can ask questions of the medical staff, or your friends or your partner. Connect with the idea that you are not going to pass on the fear, instead figure out the frustration. 

I was told a child in session once said, "Anger is just sad's bodyguard."

Whoa!

How true is that!!?!

Find someone you can explore things with, ask things of and start a journey that will hold you and gather you while unravelling what no longer serves you.

I Love you and am here if ever you need someone.
As always, Leanne Rose