Redefining Traditions
When our lives get turned upside down and the unexpected lands on our laps, we have different parts of us that rise to the surface. It may be reactionary, we could withdraw or a person can even get angry because they are afraid.
We can have all of these emotions and reactions, and more, when what we're used to, like a tradition around the holidays, falls away or doesn't get accomplished.
Whether you're still in the NICU or at home having to adjust your routine, finding space in your thoughts to redefine some of your traditions might be in order. The act of looking at something you're used to and have been doing for a long time in a certain way, forms new creativity and spawns a renewed light within that activity.
- How could you do that family gathering while you are still back and forth to your baby in the NICU or Special Care Nursery?
- Where can you place that special stocking that was sewn for the newest addition to your family?
- When will you find time to reconnect with your partner with that book you both love reading at Christmastime?
Altering course doesn't mean you're heading to a different destination, it can simply mean that the map you laid out for yourself has to be shifted just enough so you, and everyone involved, can feel a similar sense of security and joy.
I know it is hard to feel joy when you can't hold your baby. Believe me, those memories still feel so real for me. Yet knowing that your little one can feel your presence and your Love will help you both make a heartfelt memory.
Redefining traditions also doesn't have to be permanent. Maybe it's just this year that you need to be creative. Who knows, it might turn into a new version that fits better in the long-run.
Adjusting to find joy is what we're all about. Adaptation with Love. Figuring out how to, not only survive, but thrive with where we're at. How can it get much better than that?
I Love you and wish you the very, merriest of holidays!
Happy Hanukkah!
Merry Christmas!
With all my Love,
Leanne Rose
